PAIN....

Pain... the only thing other than the happiness which makes u feel of ur existence..we feel pain when it hurts ....u also feel pain when some body goes away form u....u feel the pain when someone very close to u fail to understand u time and again....u feel the pain when u dont achieve what u aspired for or what u dreamt...u feel the pain when u want some one to be with u and who is never there for u...but again in my analysis i come to one conclusion....there might be several reasons to feel the pain...but u should be strong enough not to feel this pain lets say brush aside this pain..there has to be ways for it....if someone does not understand you simply stop thinking abt u and dont give a damn abt what he thinks....if u feel the pain of separation from someone just assume he was never there for you...or just assume you will meet up again...that way i think the pain will go.....and also these are all secondary things...try to find ur ultimate aim in life and let all the other things be subordinate to it.....and u will be a happy man....

Expectations....

I have lots of time these days so i keep evaluating something or the other. I was thinking about my friends or rather good friends and reflecting on the reasons why they are such a good friend to me. In the past one year also I made some good friends. Well i have realized one thing u have certain expectations from ur friend and if they fulfill those expectation u regard them to be good friends....but on the other hand I think am i expecting too much from the other side? My nature is to go all out for ur friends and do evrythin possible in my hands without thinking of the probs i might face...(i m not boasting but this is my nature)....and earlier though i was not expecting sth in return..i have started expecting sth from my friends,,,and in process when those expectations rae not fulfilled i become sad...and may be enter into certain arguments and then a fight (verbal) with them....later when i gave a thought about all this i realized i was wrong when i was expecting anything from my friends....so i will try not to expect anything from friends.....i realize that they might not be like me...they possibly are not in a postion to do as much as i require,,,,so inspite of being sad,,i should look at the practicality of the situation and accept whatever comes ur way....i think u should selflessly love and care....then only u can be happy.....and from now on i will try to do the same.,,,of course that wud be a bit mechanical but that is a sure way to be happy.....bas ab itna gnan hi kaafi hai.....

Hope...

Well the title explains what I am going to type next? Certainly about hope and its relevance to life.....
Well have we ever thought why we feel dejected?? Or for that matter why we become unhappy when things dont go our way? Our life constitutes hope as a major factor. I mean hope is the driving force for the life.....
we hope for sth and when we dont get it we get sad....Does this mean that we should not hope ?
I think the reasons for all the pain in life is that we expect so much from others even without thinking whether they can give it to us. I think to remain happy you should expect nothing or as little as possible from others.....
for example i have too many friends....i get dejected or sad when they make no effort to be in contact.....but in the first point why do i expect them to be in touch? I agree they are friends and they should be in touch but then it can not be used as a reason for them to be always in touch...so its better if you accept the realities of life as it is and lead the life withoout expecting anything.....desire ceratinly leads to sadness and dejection if it is not fulfilled....i am not preaching everyone to give up the materialistic ideas and be spiritual or a sanyasin..what i am plainly telling is harbour ur desires but then you should be strong enough to carry on with ur life when they do not materialize....and in no way i am saying you to stop dreaming......dream as much as you can because like hope dream is also a part of life.....without dream life will be so colourlessso keep dreaming .....on dreams too i hope to write sth.....later..bye....

Uncertainties of life...

uff...took a hell lot of a time to take the title of blog...well i think i m already too late in writing the blogs...but then a beginning has to be made....a journey has to begin some day....its a nice way to communicate ur ideas to the world....anyway as the title says.....life , as i have been seeing the various fast changing shades in the past few days.......its so uncertain.....so i was forced to think about it and write about it......is there any format for writing blogs? i dont care...and will write(read type ) as i feel ......past one year was gr8 learning experience in my life....and i mean life..and not picking up certain technical expertise and all that.....and i have learnt one important virtue in my life.....u need not make ur life complex by thinking abt all the probs in ur life at a single moment..u gotta tackle them one by one with a confidence in u...today i write this blog in a condition which seems to me a hopeless one....need to take too many important decisions.....and need to listen to others and act accordingly.....will i be able to do justice to all and to myself??
but then as i said (actually one of my frnds made me realise this..and i will be always thankful to her for this.....)....do not make ur life complex.....think of the circumstances that are around u...and if it seems to be the worst....then there is a positive to it..it possibly can not go worse..it will always be better.......the uncertainties of life will always be there...and the best way to tackle it is to stop thinking or rather speculating abt it......i see hope at the end of the tunnel....and hope anyone who reads this will find some answers for himself......and be a better more positive person.....will continue sometime.....lots to write......lots to contri....seeya all.....